Healthy Ways to Cope With Failure

Going with the words of Mickey Rooney, “You always pass failure on your way to success”. In other words, being successful means you’ve failed somewhere. The truth is that everyone falls but failure is never the stopping point. It is just an indicator that there are places we need to put more effort into to get the outcomes that we want. Hence, it’s important to learn how to cope with failure.

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According to a Chinese proverb, “Failure is not falling but refusing to get up”. Those individuals who will not pick themselves back up, regardless of if it’s two days or two years, are the real failures.

We have times when we fail to accomplish something that we truly wanted and find it hard to cope with. However, I can pick myself up and dust myself down after these experiences. It’s not as if I’m intrinsically better than those who can’t rather I have simply developed some positive habits and skills that help me to cope with failure. For me, failure is a way to learn and improve. In this article, I will be sharing some of these positive habits and skills that help me to cope with failure.

Always recognize and acknowledge your failure

When you experience failure, don’t pretend as though nothing happened because turning blind eyes to a problem is never a solution. Simply, do your best effort to acknowledge failure as an unavoidable part of life and accept it. The sooner you do that, the faster your recovery will be. Identify your shortcomings in that particular situation and focus on limiting them in the future. Consider the situation from various angles and see what lesson you can learn from it.

See failure as a Learning Opportunity

Failure is such a weakening feeling since we associate it with losing and finishing. Failing doesn’t imply that you have lost. It likewise doesn’t imply that you should be kept from pushing ahead because of failure. Shift your viewpoint and view failure as an opportunity to develop and learn. When you see failure this way, you would then be able to approach it with a different mentality; a mentality that will push you to quickly change your activities into ones that lead to success.

Try not to make it personal

One common reason why some people find failure annihilating is that their personality is tied up in succeeding. So when they fail, they consider themselves to be a failure, instead of seeing that they have encountered a setback. Don’t make failure personal, all things being equal, it is something that you experience. It doesn’t change the real you.

Bear in mind that anyone who wants to be successful in life will fail at times.

We frequently hear about people’s achievements. However, the way to those achievements tends to have numerous setbacks. The tale of somebody’s success may appear to be just brilliant and quick. But if you know the number of setbacks they faced, you will know it’s not easy as it seems. Having this in mind will help you cope with failure.

Grasp your feelings

Failure brings a variety of feelings; humiliation, anxiety, anger, bitterness, and disgrace. Those emotions are awkward and many individuals will do anything they can to evade feeling emotional distress. But embrace your feelings and recognize how you’re feeling and let yourself feel bad for a bit.

Assume responsibility for your failures rather than blaming others

A normal instinctual response of many individuals when encountering failures is to blame others. This might be a bit alleviating at first because it can assist you to get rid of fear typically going with failure, but there’s no long term gain for you if you continue to blame others for your failures. Worst of all, it will prevent you from learning from your failures. What will be beneficial for you is to recognize your role in a specific circumstance and accept responsibility regarding what you did wrong that caused the failure.

Recognize irrational beliefs about failure

You may have developed some nonsensical beliefs about failure. Maybe you think failure implies you’re terrible or that you’ll never succeed. Or on the other hand, possibly you think nobody will like you if you fail. Those sorts of beliefs are inaccurate. Furthermore, they can keep you from doing things where you may fail.

Improve your self-confidence.

By doing so failure doesn’t become something that can easily drag you down and you will recover more quickly from them. It additionally makes it easier to perceive what happened with more clarity and to assume responsibility where you are responsible and in addition to seeing when another person is partly responsible or when you just had hard luck that you could honestly not have anticipated.

In conclusion, Just because you fail once, doesn’t mean you will fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will?

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